Kink Dictionary – Selgolalia
What is Selgolalia?
Selgolalia is a paraphilia where individuals experience sexual arousal from telling stories that revolve around or include sex. This fetish is also known as narratophilia or dirty talk fetish.
Exploring Selgolalia
Individuals with Selgolalia may find themselves aroused by telling erotic stories to their partners, strangers, or even to themselves. This fetish can be expressed in many ways, including through phone sex, sexting, erotic literature, or even roleplaying.
People with Selgolalia may find that the act of storytelling itself is what turns them on, rather than the content of the story. They may enjoy the power of being able to control the narrative and create a sexually charged atmosphere through their words.
Some individuals with Selgolalia may also enjoy hearing their partners tell erotic stories, as it can add an extra level of excitement and anticipation to sexual encounters.
Understanding the Psychology of Selgolalia
The exact cause of Selgolalia is unknown, but it may be related to the brain’s reward system. Telling erotic stories can activate the same pleasure centers in the brain as other sexual activities, leading to a feeling of euphoria and arousal.
Additionally, individuals with Selgolalia may enjoy the sense of control and power that comes with being able to create a sexually charged environment through their words. This can be particularly appealing for those who may feel powerless or out of control in other aspects of their lives.
Exploring Selgolalia Safely
As with any fetish, it is important to explore Selgolalia in a safe and consensual manner. This may involve discussing boundaries and limits with partners, as well as establishing a safe word or signal to indicate when things have gone too far.
It is also important to remember that not everyone will share the same interests or desires, and it is important to respect others’ boundaries and preferences.
Exploring Selgolalia can be a fun and exciting way to spice up your sex life, but it is important to do so in a way that is respectful and safe for all parties involved.