Kink Dictionary – Hanky Code
What is Hanky Code?
Hanky Code refers to the display of different colored handkerchiefs, scarves, or materials to indicate BDSM preference. It originated in the gay leather community in the 1970s as a way to communicate sexual interests and desires.
How does it work?
The color of the hanky or material worn on a specific side of the body indicates a particular kink or fetish. For example, wearing a black hanky on the left indicates that the wearer is a BDSM top, while wearing it on the right indicates that the wearer is a BDSM bottom.
Some other popular colors and their meanings include:
- Red: fisting
- Yellow: watersports
- Grey: bondage
- Orange: anything goes
- White: chastity
Is it still used today?
While the use of Hanky Code has declined in recent years, it is still used by some members of the BDSM community as a way to communicate their interests and desires. It has also influenced the development of other forms of communication within the community, such as flagging and pins.
Is it necessary to participate in Hanky Code?
No, it is not necessary to participate in Hanky Code or any other form of communication within the BDSM community. It is completely up to each individual to decide how they want to communicate their interests and desires.
It is important to remember that communication is key in any sexual encounter, and it is always a good idea to discuss your likes and dislikes with your partner before engaging in any sexual activity.